Dear Rosey: This guy I was seeing won’t leave me alone
It is borderline dangerous to date online, these days! I’ve been catfished the last three dates I had, and one guy is now stalking me, even though I blocked him on social media and from calling my phone. He is texting me from another number, and calling ME crazy among other evil things. I’ve ended up having to pay for dates, when the guy forgot his wallet. Also, I’ve gotten pictures of body parts when I didn’t ask to see all of that; and harassed unless I send pictures of myself. I realize some girls are into that, and getting paid for pictures and videos but now its like entry level prostitution is the norm. I’m honestly just looking for the companionship of someone on my level, but instead I’m being traumatized by this whole experience of dangerously dysfunctional men, landing on my page. What should I do and where are the normal guys, in Las Vegas?
Dear Swipe Up,
I am sorry you have had so many bad experiences with dating online and I understand the dangers which can also be associated with it. My first concern is that you are safe, do any of these men know where you live or work? The guy that you stated who is currently stalking you, have you reported him to authorities? With that being said there are other avenues that you could explore besides online dating. Most relationships come through meeting significant others through social circles, work or other functions. Do you belong to any groups or are you involved in any activities where you can meet other men? I do want to say though that online dating continues to be popular and there have been many relationships and marriages which have been successful as a result of meeting online. While online dating certainly can help people find dates, as you have mentioned it does not always work out well either. If online dating is something that you would want to still consider there are some safeguards that you can do. Changing your profile is one way to help change the algorithm in which online dating sites use. When you do find someone who interests you, do a little background check on the information that they give you. Check their facebook profiles or other social media avenues. You can check court records or other sites which are all public record. Humans have a fundamental need for love and do not be discouraged there is someone out there for you. It may not happen as fast as you want it, but be selective and take your time. If there is anything else I can help you with please let me know!