Dear Rosey: I’m struggling with the impact coming out has had
Dear Just Me,
Congratulations on coming out to your mother and it going so well! It is so very sad that your experience of being unconditionally accepted is not the case for everyone. However, your partner needs to accept you unconditionally as well, which means “not bashing, or being hurtful, or hateful and celebrating your victories with you as well. I question why you allow yourself to be treated so unkindly. Why do you choose to maintain a relationship with someone who attacks you and makes you feel unsafe when, instead, you should be cherished? In fact, the definition of cherish is “to protect and care for lovingly; to adore and hold dear; to keep or cultivate with care and affection.” Do you not feel deserving of such love? Rather than running back into the closet, surround yourself with friends and loved ones who are positive, accepting, and supportive. The world is a better place with the real you in it! Sincerely, Rosey.